"A Parent's Guide: Understanding and Supporting Your Teen with an Eating Disorder"
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- Nov 17, 2021
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Updated: Mar 19
As a parent, it can be heartbreaking to ponder if your child is battling with an eating disorder. At first, you may see it as something trivial— teens counting calories & skipping meals— Haven't we all experienced this when we were young? But then, the next time, you start noticing the subtle shifts: frequently withdrawing from food, anxious about family dinners, and having intensified body image concerns. Over time, these behaviors escalate to frequent trips to the bathroom after meals, mood swings, anxiety or isolation from family and friends, drastic weight changes (sudden loss or gain), or other physiologic concerns, including irregular menstrual cycle among females. This is usually the moment when you become alert and realize something is seriously wrong.
Eating disorders affect millions of teens worldwide, with the National Eating Disorders Association (NEDA) reporting that 95% of eating disorders develop between ages 12-25. Yet, adolescent eating disorders are frequently diagnosed late and have low rates of early intervention, leading to serious mental and physical health problems (Koreshe et al., 2023). Additionally, due to the advent of social media pressure and unrealistic beauty standards, a study found that eating disorders have doubled among teens since 2013 (Nawaz et al., 2024).
Given these situations, how do you now take the crucial step of understanding and supporting them through recovery?
How to Support Your Teen:
Talk without judgement
Instead of saying, “Why are you eating less? You need to eat more,” say, “I’ve noticed some changes. You can tell me your thoughts. I’m here for you.” Listen without trying to fix everything immediately. A study from the Academy for Eating Disorders (AED) shows that parental support significantly improves eating disorder recovery outcomes.
Create a safe environment
Avoid commenting on body size—yours or theirs. Stigmatizing words and behaviors can be emotionally upsetting for children and adolescents, hence, the American Academy of Pediatrics advises against weight-focused conversations. Focus on health, not weight. Foster a home where food is neutral, not a reward or punishment.
Be mindful of social media
Encourage body-positive content and help them set boundaries with harmful comparisons online. You can help them follow accounts promoting body positivity and remind them that internet images can be edited or curated, so comparing themselves to social media personalities can be misleading and harmful.
Seek professional help
Eating disorders require professional treatment. Help them locate a medical doctor who is an eating disorder specialist for early treatment and management. Communicating with a professional not only aids their recovery but also helps you parents become more educated on eating disorders - providing teens with stronger support.
Be patient and consistent
Recovery takes time. They may experience delays — don't show your impatience as this could make them feel guilty or hopeless. Offer your continuous support without pressuring them. Provide reassurance that you're there whenever they are ready to open up and seek support.
Your teen needs to know they are seen, valued, and not alone. Your understanding and unwavering support can be the foundation of their healing journey.
REFERENCES:
General Eating Disorder Statistics. (n.d.). NEDA. https://www.nationaleatingdisorders.org/statistics/
Koreshe, E., Paxton, S., Miskovic-Wheatley, J., Bryant, E., Le, A., Maloney, D., Aouad, P., Barakat, S., Boakes, R., Brennan, L., Bryant, E., Byrne, S., Caldwell, B., Calvert, S., Carroll, B., Castle, D., Caterson, I., Chelius, B., Chiem, L., . . . Maguire, S. (2023). Prevention and early intervention in eating disorders: findings from a rapid review. Journal of Eating Disorders, 11(1).
Nawaz, F. A., Riaz, M. M. A., Banday, N. U. A., Singh, A., Arshad, Z., Derby, H., & Sultan, M. A. (2024). Social media use among adolescents with eating disorders: a double-edged sword. Frontiers in Psychiatry, 15.
Grange, D. L., Lock, J., Loeb, K., & Nicholls, D. (2009). Academy for eating disorders position paper: The role of the family in eating disorders. International Journal of Eating Disorders, 43(1), 1–5.
Williams, D. R., & Chaves, E. (2022). Seek first to understand. PEDIATRICS, 150(6). https://doi.org/10.1542/peds.2022-059167
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